Counselling is an opportunity to explore and transform issues so you are less caught by the past and more aligned with your true sense of worth and purpose. Counselling can help you rediscover and connect with who you really are, making room for positive changes so you can be more free to express YOU in the world.
How I can helpIt's good to talk, offers many counselling services which are provided in Albany.
Challenges we supportPlease note: My wait lists are full and I am not taking on any new clients this year. |
Tara NelI am very passionate about helping people to become more empowered in their day to day life whilst working towards their aspirations and dreams.
I acknowledge that we cannot change history and the past, however we can change the relationship we have with it. Read more... |
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Anger support
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Anxiety
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Addictions
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Depression
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Grief
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Anger support
Anger itself is not a problem – although we can be brought up to think that it is. It is a normal human emotion and can be closely linked with our passion. Not all anger is unhealthy – it helps us stand up for ourselves and to hold our ground. However, getting angry can prevent us from solving problems and can be disruptive to our relationships. Anger can be a form of defense against being manipulated or controlled helping us stand up for who we are. Anger and irritability can also motivate us to take action against injustice. We may also have anger so deep that it is hard to articulate. Read more... |
Stress, Fear and Anxiety
The emotions of stress, fear and anxiety can be very overwhelming and leave you feeling entirely caught with a sense of helplessness. These feelings can initiate the flight, fight or freeze response in an attempt to feel safe. At times, the intensity of which we can feel these emotions can be disproportionate with the event that has taken place and can incapacitate us. We may have learnt to hide our anxiety from others, pretending that all is well in our world, even though inside we are in turmoil. We find it difficult to manage these emotions and can feel taken over by it fretting about the past, worrying about the future and not being able to live in the present moment. Living like this can be exhausting and familiar with a sense of not knowing any other way to be in the world. Read more... |
Addictions (internet, sex, alcohol, drugs, eating disorders, gambling)
The word addict can be thrown around freely for a multitude of activities which is a shame as it minimises what for some can be a very distressing reality. Being labelled an addict isn’t always helpful and what is more important is understanding what the repeating behaviours is offering the person and what it may be trying to cover up. We may have an emotional attachment to our addiction of choice which helps us be able to be in our lives and/or cope with something that has been long repressed or hidden away. Through counselling, we can understand more about the addiction, how it is trying to serve you and how it is limiting you, moving you away from being managed by your habit to being in charge of your addiction. Read more... |
Depression
Experiencing ups and downs is part of being a human being. There can be a stigma attached to asking for help when we are feeling depressed based on our culture, the perspective of others and society. A solution for depression is often medication which has its place and also can overlook actually addressing the reasons for the depression. Read more... |
Grief and Bereavement
There are many aspects to grief and everyone has their own unique experience with dealing with their loss. Perhaps the grief is about the loss of a loved one, someone close to us that played an important role in our life, or letting go of a strongly held belief, pain, wound and/or trauma. We need to go through our own grieving process and the length of time it takes to be with grief and to mourn in a way that is appropriate for us. Unfortunately different cultures and society have expectations on how grief should be handled, which can result in us not being able to grieve properly leaving unresolved emotional pain and loss deep inside of us. Grieving can be cut unnaturally short through your employer's bereavement leave policy or by the attitude of those around you. Read more... |
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Low Self-Esteem
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Relationship Challenges
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Sexual Difficulties
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Unhealed Wounds
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Work Life Balance
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Low Confidence and Self-Esteem
Our self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves and a low self-esteem tends to generate low confidence. When suffering from low self-esteem we can think badly of ourselves, comparing ourselves to others and falling short. We can continually second guess ourselves and use a lot of energy worrying about what other people think about us. This can be an exhausting experience leading to low energy levels and it becoming increasingly more difficult to interact with others. Read more... |
Relationship Challenges
How easy do we find it to set clear boundaries or can our boundaries be flexible or easily removed. When we were younger we learned how to have boundaries and how they would be respected. If our boundaries were ignored, disrespected and trampled over, then we may find it difficult to be able to have boundaries now. This can result in others running our lives whilst we struggle to have personal boundaries to protect and support us. Read more... |
Sexual Difficulties
Sexual difficulties in a relationship can sometimes be an indicator that there are other emotional challenges and unfulfilled needs within the partnership. It can also be because of our history which has generated certain beliefs around sex or possible fears. We may desire to be more sexual and intimate and not know what is getting in the way – we just know something is. Read more... |
Unhealed Wounds
Freud said that human beings are insatiable which means that it was virtually impossible for parents to meet every need that we had growing up. With this, all of us have experienced hurt and some have experienced a traumatic event or multiple events. Some of these hurtful experiences would have been too hard for the child to handle and therefore as adults we may continue to live from this hurt place in our way of being. Read more... |
Work Life Balance
Our work can provide a great sense of joy and meaningfulness in which we derive a great sense of purpose and genuinely love what we do. Yet some of us can get caught up in the work trap in which what we do is who we are. Our work and career defines who we are and how we feel about ourselves. Our self-esteem can be tied up with our achievements at work and how our peer and managers perceive us. Read more... |